Swearing Around Girls

I remember a time when teenage boys didn’t swear around girls.  If someone did, the other guys would scold the malefactor with a sharp “Hey!  There’s girls here!”  and he would stop.  That all changed around 1967 when “Fuck” became the word without which young women could not be cool.  Girls and guys became indistinguishable not only in the way they dressed but also in the way they related sexually.  Once upon a time guys had their feet on the accelerator while girls had theirs on the brake; now, they both press on the gas…and here we are.


4 thoughts on “Swearing Around Girls

  1. Actually, I found it quite offensive with the F-word. I think as you know that “swearing” is not a proper manner and it’s definitely unacceptable for me. I really dislike people who swear. Swearing can show the level of the person’s way of manner and as first sight, I can see the rest of his character by swearing to express himself. But it’s good not that boys don’t swear in front of s. Especially swearing is very common in nowadays and if s do swearing as well, I think they are extremely rude…

  2. Using swear words in company with strangers and/or those who are known to object to swearing, is indeed offensive. But swearing in a written work such as a blog, especially if there is a WARNING atop, is OK. How nice to see Perfectionist Gal getting around! I love her eponymous blog.

  3. In the place and time of my teen years, one was not supposed to say anything sexual or scatological or blasphemous in the presence of women of any age. Doing so could be serious faux pas. But the overheated late 60s and early 70s changed that forever. Vietnam, and protest against the war there. The rise of acid rock. The drug explosion that took place in dorms and in the surrounding bohemias. Young unmarried women walked away from chastity by the millions. By 1970 or so, few women graduated from elite universities with their virginity intact. A fair proportion of those that were virgins were committed lesbians or radical feminists. In 1973, legal abortion emerged to erase the embarrassing consequences of this national orgy.

    An audible part of this sudden evolution of mores, one that was for me a vivid lived experience, was university women making free use of the coarse short Anglo-Saxon words. Women contemporaries told me that the conversations overheard in elite women’s colleges turned dorm and cafeteria life into an open sewer. The rude words began appearing more freely in print.

    I took part in this free for all, although I tempered it in mixed company. But the feminist ideology of those days ruled that to speak one way to guys and another way to gals was inherently sexist!

    Here we are 40 years later. I find the f word all over blog and forum posts by purported young women. The c word remains taboo, for now. Derogatory terms for the male member are not too common.

    I concluded long ago that it was high time that we stop invoking the act which makes human existence possible as an all-purpose derogatory metaphor. We all owe our existences to the genitalia of our parents, and to their coming together in passion. This elemental fact deserves our reverence and affection. The metaphorical use of words denoting our private parts, and loving consensual acts involving those parts, should be terms of praise and approbation, and not of contempt.

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